August 14, 2017 (facebook post)

I know many hundreds, perhaps thousands, have been following my husband’s illness. You’ve seen the lows, the highs, and the in betweens of these – too brief – last 5 months. I wanted to share with you that Eternity is close for my love.

His port becoming contaminated… leading to the strep blood infection… an added bladder infection …all allowing for (or accompanying) his Dx last Thursday of pneumonia and pleural effusion is all stacking up, proving too cumbersome. I am here to tell you that he is home with us and on hospice care. These illnesses will take him before the extensive cancer in his system. In the most important and tangible way: an end to his suffering – this is a blessing, and not a curse. It is proof of God’s mercy and love for Dan that he find rest sooner than later.

Make no mistake, I’m not one bit happy with this reality. Nor is Dan. And certainly not Cassidy. The anxiety and sadness and torture and heart ache of watching my larger-than-life renaissance man eaten away from the inside has been close to unbearable. And I can’t even begin to understand what the journey has been like for him.

I apologize that this comes without warning or time for you to see him. The reality is his strength of will was so very set and so very determined to fight, that he focused on nothing else. Please pray for his peace re all earthly matters to which he may cling. And for me, that I may serve him well in these days/weeks. I thank you now, also, for lifting your voice on behalf of Cassidy and me and the entire family.